This month I learned the tool of decisiveness.
You and Your Boat
Imagine you’re on a boat in the middle of the ocean. It is just you, your mind, your body, and your decisions. All of these components make up your soul. You are looking around wondering where to go. Do you trust yourself to lead?
This boat symbolizes your life and you are the only one who can direct it. You decide where you go and how far. The water is the world around you that you have no control over. Sometimes strong waves come and you have to flow to not exert a lot of energy fighting against them. This is seen when life sometimes throws curveballs your way and you just have to ride the wave.
Other times it will rain in life and you will have to put your pancho on and sit (or dance) through the rain because you can’t control the weather of your life. You learn to enjoy the rain because you know it is necessary for growth.
But at the end of the day you are the one sailing your boat. You are so powerful because your actions create ripple effects and move you in the direction of your dreams. You are the only one that gets to decide which direction you go– or if you stay put and not move because NOT deciding is a decision.
You are the one co-creating with God/love and everything that comes your way is for your greatest good, but in order to move in the direction of love, you must DECIDE and ACT. You are the one directing your life knowing it is happening FROM YOU not TO YOU. You are creating yourself at every moment by the decisions you make. You get to decide who you are, no one else. Choose love and worthiness. Choose to give yourself the most love with every decision.
Why Are We Indecisive
Let’s look at why we are indecisive to better understand ourselves and move past it. We are indecisive because we don’t want to make the “wrong” decision and we don’t yet feel ready to make the “right” one. It all boils down to fear and lack of trust. We are scared that we won’t know how to pick the perfect path. But you must realize that we always get what we want and the more we decide the more we grow and learn in a shorter amount of time.
We put so much weight on one decision. Instead see yourself as successful no matter what path you choose, because your success is determined by your actions after this one decision. This one decision is not the end all be all. Loosen the pressure and lean into trust. You will make it work.
Will Time Make the Decisions Better or Worse
If you don’t feel ready to make a decision now, will you feel ready in one week? One year? Two years? When you ask yourself these questions you bring your future self into the now and are able to determine if time will make the decisions better or worse. We must remember that time is relative. One day might seem shorter to me than you. In reality we waste time when we wait to make decisions. There is a ripe period of making decisions and after that ripe period the choice becomes spoiled. The ripe period is short and sweet and comes with a gut feeling. The more you practice making decision making the more you will shoot within that window.
How to Be Decisive
I have developed 5 steps to trust yourself and be more decisive:
The magic recipe
- Be open to trusting yourself
Be open to the ideas of trusting yourself and see yourself make decisions easily and effortlessly. Now that you can see it in your mind’s eye, commit (mentally) to trust yourself today by setting an intention.
- Set an intention for your day
Setting intentions is a powerful way to co-create. When you set an intention you are creating the energy you want to see outside internally first. This mental clarity and direction allows you to act out your intention as if it already happened, because you see it internally and you are the master co-creator. The fact that you see it internally means it is possible.
Set your intention daily in the morning when you wake up by writing it down. If you want to work on being more decisive in life and trusting yourself you might set your intentions to: Today I choose to trust myself and know I have all that I need.
- Action out your intention
When walking through your day, act upon that intention. It may seem uncomfortable at first because it is a new tool but when you keep practicing you will see it will come naturally. There will be doubt but just let it pass on by and keep your eye on your intention because where your attention goes energy goes. Know that you have all that you need to be who you want to be. It is a growing process.
- Visualize yourself making decisions confidently
See the version of you who confidently makes decisions. Keep her/him in your mind’s eye and know you are her you just have to action to believe and create. Really get to know her/him. What are her/him thoughts? Because it is all about alignment: mind (intention) + body (action) + soul (trust).
As this Bible verse so beautifully puts in:
“Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he”
Proverbs 29:18
- Pray
Prayer is so powerful. Humbly pray to gain the courage to trust yourself and make decisions for yourself. A prayer can look something like this:
Dear Father,
I come before you humbly. I know I cannot do everything on my own and what a blessing that is because I have you. I get to rely on YOU. You are great and beyond my understanding. It is because of this that I ask Father, that you soften my heart and renew my mind so I may be able to trust myself and you more. May I be able to make decisions confidently knowing we are working together and everything you send my way is a blessing for it comes from you! Thank you Father, thank you, thank you!
Your fraction of light,
Name
You can pray this prayer one a day or as you see fit.
Try this recipe for 30 days and see how much your life changes. As you move through this process, journal about what is coming up for you and recite this affirmation on days when you feel less equipt to make decisions.
Journal Prompts that dig deeper + Affirmations
- How has trust grown within me during this process?
- What has changed around me since I committed to loving myself by making decisions even if I feel scared or doubt?
- Do I believe?
- Do I trust myself in the now?
- What worked for me?
- What did I discover about myself?
Affirmations:
I make decisions with confidence and clarity.
I choose opportunities that align with my greatest good.
Every decision leads to growth and movement forward in the long run.
As children of God he gave us everything we need to achieve our dreams with love. We just have to believe and action even with doubt. Eventually the doubt will fall away because you will build the practice and see that you do know the way. He placed that beautiful dream in your heart because you can achieve it and it is meant for you. This means not attaching to the outcome but falling in love with the process because it builds this NEW you that God has called you to be. This new You answered the call and created more love, and the only way to do that is to be decisive and choose to be the captain of your boat.
Love,
Jessica
